Here at the Stay Strong Mom, you might hear a lot about strength. But what exactly is strength and how does it pertain to your life?
When you hear us talk about strength, don’t fall prey to thinking that we are talking about putting your head down and pushing your way through tough times. Don’t mistake muscling your way through or giving until you’re empty as “strength.”
That’s not we’re about and you shouldn’t be either. Instead, “strength” looks a bit different than what we have been taught our whole lives. Strength actually looks like:
+ Knowing when we need a real, actual break
+ Knowing how and when to say “no”
+ Knowing how and who to ask for help (anyone else get frustrated with this commonly-given advice that’s not really that helpful because WHO are you supposed to ask for help and what exactly are you getting help with??)
+ Resting some more
+ Grieving when you need to grieve. This will look different for everyone, but giving yourself time and space and permission to find what this means to you is so, so important, even if your loss isn’t necessarily tangible. Your loss could be the next nine months you thought you had to drink wine or your loss could be saying good-bye to a loved one, but loss is anything that affects you.
+ Connecting with people who “get it”
+ Taking time out to heal. This is a hard lesson I’ve had to learn over and over again, but it’s so important. Being OK with not being OK for a time being feels scary and overwhelming, but I’ve literally been forced to learn this lesson over and over because apparently I’m stubborn-headed? Hey, #workinprogress
Strength through motherhood and life is not about pushing through; it’s about letting go and learning as you go. It’s about taking a break and giving your body, your mind, and your emotions time and space to breathe. Strength is about giving to others while also protecting yourself.
What does strength mean to you? Don’t forget to tag us or #thestaystrongmom or #staystrongmom with your own examples of strength!